Single on Valentine’s Day? No Worries!!

It’s that time of year again, the day we celebrate love! Cupid is shooting his love arrows and all is right is the world, NOT, lol! Not everyone is living the fairytail Valentines like we see on TV, some of us are single and ok with that.
So I am newly divorced after being married for 14 years. Although I have spent several Valentine Days alone during that time, it is still hard. Looking back its makes me sad to remember those sad and lonely feelings I felt on that day.  But don’t be like me, it is ok to take your time to grieve a lost love or  remember a failed relationship, but don’t stay there you eventually have to move on.

You may be thinking Keoshia, yea, yea  what is the damn point, LOL! Ok, Ok the point is embrace being single!! I have found soo much out about myself and gained new self-confidence by being alone. Sometimes being alone is what you need to focus on yourself and understand your flaws. This will help you work on self improvement. Now of course this is not a overnight process, but I am here to provide you with five tips for the single life on this Valentines Day! Apply these tips whether you are  Newly single or a Veteran single.

  1. Be your own valentine– Use this day as a day to love yourself! Who says you have to wait on someone else to love you! Think about what makes you happy and practice doing little things for yourself everyday.
  2. Take yourself on a date-Who says you can treat yourself on Valentines day or any day for that matter? Who says you can’t buy yourself flowers or treat yourself to dinner and a movie?
  3. Have a girls night- Call all your single girlfriend and plan a great night out! You can get all dressed up and go to dinner and out dancing. See a comedy show or even a girls night sleepover. Just enjoy yourself and your friends on Valentine’s Day!
  4. Spend the day doing something you love- Go skiing, take a bike ride, go to your favorite coffee shop or get a massage. You can also stay in and Binge watch your favorites show or movies on Netflix. (Just no romantic movies, it may be a little too much)
  5. Remember things will change-  This too shall past! Season of darkness come to us all, but remember that tomorrow is a brand new day.

So, those are my five tips for this Valentine’s Day. These tips will hopefully help you make it through this Valentines Day. If you are still having trouble with being single, remember there are 321 days left in the year and they are all about you and working on embracing being single.

What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? Are you single if so how do you tackle Valentine’s Day? Leave a comment!


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  1. Things have changed so much when it comes to Valentine’s Day with regards to being single. There is so much out there to do or not to do. I loved what you’ve mentioned here.

    1. I went to work and my and my friend exercised after work and I was tired when I got home. Yes I love to take myself on date! Yes a movie date with your son sounds so fun!

  2. Taking yourself on a date is a great idea, not just for Valentines day and not just for when your single. I went out with my girls this weekend and I’ll go out with my husband this week end. Thanks for the great ideas!

  3. EXACTLY! Just because it is V-day does not mean the married or otherwise not single people are having a great day. I love your post so very empowering. I wrote a very similar blog post too because like you, I agree we need to love ourselves first and foremost! I learned the most about myself in my single years and living on my own was the most life enriching time in my life.

  4. A me-date should be the best date of your life. Full of pampering, relaxation, or shopping overload. The important is to strengthen your relationship to yourself first.

  5. Enjoy your day! I actually prefer to be alone like 90% of the time. My husband is here, but he’ll be working later, and I plan on reading and relaxing–well, as much as my kids will let me.

  6. Sometimes these holidays can make people feel depressed for no reason. There’s always something to be happy about. And even if we don’t notice it, there’s ALWAYS someone who loves us. So the girls night out tip is a great one!

  7. These are great tips! I love that you remind your readers things will change. Sometimes we feel like our life is going to suck forever, lol, but things will get better! I also suggest we stop focusing so much on this day in general! Valentines day really shouldn’t be as big a deal as it is. Great post 🙂

    1. Right, I use to feel like that as well, when your going through it is hard to remember that. Sometime we need someone to remind us it will get better. Yes they do, thanks!

  8. So true! We should always enjoy every moment single or not, showering some love on oneself is always required. Before my husband came into my life, I was single and I used to celebrate everyday with friends and family.Sometimes ME time is what one needs.

  9. love this post! alot of ladies have forgotten how to be single and I am one of them. Today, for the first time in a long time, i spent valentines day single and I definitely loved it!

    1. Thank you. We are always looking a couples on Valentine’s and think we need one. But being single and spending time pamper and spoiling yourselves is amazing feeling! Glad you had a great time!

  10. Luckily I will be spending time with my husband this year, but these are some great ideas that could help someone single! A girls night sounds really interesting and I agree that things will change for sure!

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